The River

There is something to be said about floating down the river. You get to nowhere faster than you want to and you really get to know those who are with you. The last river trip in July 2005 was no exception. The discussions with the Howells driving up and back are unforgettable, Spence was his usual charming self, Paul was coming into his own rite, Danny was still the teacher, Dax was quietly listening in and Kathryn became a good friend. (Dax sends his love from his mission in Brisbane Australia.)

You ask about Danny being the teacher; many years ago, Chris and I were the Young Single Adult Advisors for our ward and that included the duo of Danny and Dave. When they called us to that position, they told us we would be teaching them in Sunday School also. Well the teachers soon became the students and the students the teachers. What a great experience it was to learn from that class. And when Amy started coming with Danny, it wasn't hard to see that he had stars in his eyes and was going to start a whole new life.

We watched family closeness on that trip. We learned from example about family ties and love. I saw a closeness between a father and daughter that any parent would want to have and incredible bonding through three generations. This is one family that will definitely be together forever!

May Heavenly Father always bless the Howells family and may your memories of Dan be sweet and loving.

Howard, Christine and Dax Norton

More memories from Tucson

Dan Howells I can honestly say was one of the most influential people in my life. The amazing thing is that I know there are a lot of people that can say that about this wonderful man.

I just called him ‘Howells’ because not only was I fortunate enough to have him as my Bishop but as my seminary teacher as well. I was the one ALWAYS giving him a hard time and questioning EVERYTHING… As a teenager and still today I love to debate and question. That is usually what our seminary classes turned into, a debate, when we had to move on for the rest of the class I would stay so our debate (and usually my ignorant disagreement) would continue. He was so patient with me and even though I know I frustrated him on more than one occasion I know he loved it. It was something I needed to grow and he knew that.

I moved up to Anchorage Alaska almost two years ago, and haven’t seen or spoken to Howells in years, but he still affects my life and the way I think about things. His warming smile and love for his beautiful wife and children is something that I always looked up to and hope to recreate in my own home one day. The life lessons and human compassion that Howells carried and shared every day helped everyone that he was around grow to be a better person. I look forward when the day that I can thank him for all that he has done for me. Dan Howells has an astounding spirit and I can think of no one more fitting to help the Lord with his work in paradise.
I wrote this for a good friend of mine that passed away a few years ago but I find it just as fitting now as it was then:

*In the end*
Do not be sad for me
For now my soul is finally free
So not shed a tear
Because now I have nothing to fear
I have left the pain of this world behind
However these things I ask you to keep in mind
Never hid your feelings for someone
For you never know when their days are done
Treat each other with respect
Do not outcast the reject
Love each other the way that I loved you
With love you can make it through
I will be looking down on you always
Waiting through all the days
Until it is your turn to ascend
And we can meet again

With Much Love,
Nicole Dellerman

Tucson Memories Of Bishop Howells

I was so sad not to be able to travel up for the funeral but I felt great comfort in writing down my memories of Bishop Howells. He was my seminary teacher for all four years I was in high school and my Bishop. He has been an important figure in my life.

In high school I had lunch with my bishop every day. Bishop Howells was called to be the bishop of our ward when I was a sophomore. In the stake some people called him the “teenage bishop” because he looked so young and because it seemed he was more comfortable with the youth than with adults sometimes. My friends and I ate lunch at the picnic table in front of the seminary almost every day and Howells would join us. Sometimes we would play games he made up, like the one where someone would name an object or a word and everyone else would try to be the first to recite a line from a song with that word or object in it. Other times we would just talk about things that were only interesting to teenagers. It seems to me that during much of the time I was in high school Bishop Howells knew more about me than any other adult.

Other games Howell’s liked: “Buck, Buck” from Fat Albert, wrestling, and “Samurai.” I can’t remember the rules to Samurai except that it was supposed to be a scripture mastery game, it involved a huge taped-up newspaper stick, whacking it and yelling “Samurai!!” which Howells did with gusto.

He seemed to me to have an incredible amount of energy and be incredibly humble at the same time. It is a combination I have never seen in another person.

There was a music morningside one time when a friend of his had come to speak to us. Afterward we asked Howells what they where planning to do before class started (there was about 90 min) and he said they were going back to his house to have breakfast. Without being invited Heather, Tyler and I climbed into the back of his blue Volvo. Bishop only looked a little annoyed for a minute then laughed and took us with them and fed us breakfast. I think that it was after that they always had bagels or doughnuts after the morningsides.

I remember Howells speaking very reverently of the mountains. He said that in the scriptures temples are called the Mountain of the Lord and that at times on Earth when no temples are available the Lord speaks to his prophets from mountains. He said that in his life he felt a spiritual reverence in the mountains.

Before seminary graduation Howells asked the female students not to hug him during the graduation out of respect for Amy. In the emotion of the moment more than a few of us forgot and tried to hug him anyway. He was very gracious about it. There was never any doubt how much he loved and adored his wife. He spoke about how much he admired her all the time.

I remember in class discussing the prophet Alma’s last words to his sons. I remember Howells saying that he related very much to Shiblon because of the advice his father gave him. Among other things Alma told his son to “bridle all his passions.” Howells said that this meant a lot to him because he considered himself to be a very passionate person. Alma didn’t tell his son to squash his passion or kill or destroy it but to bridle it like a rider does with a horse. A bridal on a horse gives the rider the ability to steer and lead the horse in the direction the horse should take. Howells said that Alma is telling us all to give righteous purpose to our passions.

In the short time he spent as an Institute teacher at the U of A he left an impression because he would hang out in the foyer on the couches talking to students during his breaks between classes, instead of in his office like many of the other teachers.

In my life he was the most powerful spiritual advisor I have ever had. I don’t expect another will match him.

With love, Andrea Messinger Dalton

Amy and kids,

I wrote this right after I heard of Dan’s passing. I want you all to know how important he was to me . . .

It’s amazing. I’ve only known of Dan’s death for about one hour, but I realized that I have thought of him at least twice during the past day--even before I heard the horrible news. And I haven’t seen or talked to him for several months. That shows what a wonderful impact he has made on my life. I respect him more than I could ever describe. He is an awesome man.

I thought of him this morning while taking my kids to school. It was snowing and I saw three neighbor kids walking along. I wondered if I should offer them a ride. Then I thought of Dan and a discussion we had about how it really builds a child’s character when you allow them to do things like walk to school. He told me about how kids learn and explore during those times and how we needn’t do everything for our children. I really agreed with him and admired his way of thinking.

I thought of Dan last night when we were having family scripture study. We read in the Doctrine and Covenants about the restoration of the Aaronic Priesthood. Troy was explaining to our son Nathan that the ward holds a father and son’s campout each spring to commemorate that restoration, which took place in the springtime. When Spencer Howells was in my primary class, we talked about the Aaronic Priesthood, and he told our class that very same fact about the campout. That was the first time I’d learned that. He had been taught very well by his father.

Dan is probably the most genuine person I know. He says what he believes and gives no pretence. I loved hearing him speak in church. His words were always straight from his heart. I loved the emotions he showed, especially when talking about his family. He believed in families. Dan and I spoke in the same sacrament meeting in the spring three years ago. Our topic was motherhood. I’ll never forget that wonderful experience of sharing my thoughts and feelings about being a mother, then listening to a powerful sermon from him about the divine role of motherhood.

I have admired Dan’s relationship to Amy. It was always so neat to see the passion they shared for one another. I could see the love he had for Amy in his eyes. I remember him teaching a lesson once in Sunday school, and him mentioning how grateful he was in high school to have this gorgeous cheerleader (his future wife) pay attention to him. He really worships her and she loves him just as much. They could love each other and tease each other at the same time. It was wonderful.

Of all their children, I know Kathryn best. She was one of my young women. I was constantly in awe of her testimony and knowledge of the gospel. She is such a delightful girl. I remember her refusing to let me pay her for babysitting when we went to the temple. Last time Troy and I went out to dinner with Dan and Amy, Dan talked about all of the wonderful experiences Kathryn has been having in high school. He looked so proud and so protective of her.

He is the best example of a family patriarch. I remember finding a Book of Mormon in their car once. Amy told me they keep some in the car so their family could have their daily scripture study if they are driving home on a late evening and wouldn’t have time. I thought that was amazing!

Dan has a wonderful, subtle sense of humor. I loved to see him sitting on the stand in sacrament meeting as Amy trudged in with all of her kids, some still trying to get dressed. I also remember a time when one of our ward members, John Neff, was reading a scripture in Sunday school. He has this wonderful, deep voice that sounds like a professional book-on-tape reader. When he finished reading, Dan made a loud “Beep” sound. It was hilarious. He was hilarious.

Troy served in the bishopric with Dan and loved every moment with him. It was interesting that Dan had once been a bishop, but was then serving as a counselor. Yet it didn’t matter at all. He was a great mentor and never showed an ounce of pride or superiority. Troy really missed him when they moved. They had a special camaraderie.

Even though I didn’t have a day-to-day relationship with Dan, I feel like there is a big whole left in the world without him. He is just a one-of-a-kind. I really enjoyed just being in his presence. I love his Simon Cowell-like smile. (That’s a compliment by the way.) It was such a joy and pleasure just to be with him any time at all.

I really thought in some future day I would see him speaking as a general authority in general conference. He has that kind of spirit about him. I am deeply sad that I won’t enjoy him any more in this lifetime. I would really just love to go out to dinner with him and Amy once more. I have no question about the eternal nature of his family relationship and the ability of his incredible wife to continue to raise that family in faith and hope until they will reunite.

Love, Julie Thomson

My first experience with Brother Howells was when Shad was in our nursery. Shad really struggled in nursery and Dan was always there with him. He frequently helping out with snacks and lessons. He was a very patient dad.

Of course, when I got called to be Scoutmaster I spent a lot more time with Dan. I was terrified when Dan asked me to be the Scoutmaster, but he helped me recognize the importance of the Scouting program in the lives of young men. As a new scoutmaster it was a struggled to get our troop established on sound scouting principles. Dan would frequently attend our Tuesday night activities to help with crowd control and provide encouragement. At the time we didn't divide into Scouts, Varsity, or Ventures so 17 boys would come each week. The support he offered me each week was probably the biggest reason I made it through those first two years. I am so grateful for his help. I am coming up on my five year mark as Scoutmaster and I credit Dan with a lot of the success our program has had and for helping me catch the scouting vision. Before the Howells left our ward he also nominated me for an award called the Second Miler Award. I didn't fully realize the significance of that award until recently. Only a handful of people get that award each year. I know that he valued what I was doing. He recognized the work I was putting into my calling. That meant the world to me that he would nominate me for such an award. I am so grateful he would take the time to honor me that way.

Dan was not only motivational but also helped with the logistical aspects of scouting. Our first week long scout camp was at Camp Frontier. We had 13 boys attend camp and 4 leaders. I was feeling a lot of stress trying to find drivers. He graciously drove his van full of scouts and equipment to East Fork of the Bear. The next year we went to Bear Lake Aquatics Base and he didn't hesitate to drive us there as well. I would tease him about his 15 passenger van being the scouts' shuttle.

For our April 2006 camp-out we went to Vernon Reservoir. Dan came with us and volunteered to drive. We took a canoe with us. After we got camp set up and were cooking dinner 2 of the more rambunctious scouts wanted to go canoeing. I told them that they couldn't go because there would be no supervision. Dan offered to provide the supervision. The three of them left. The rest of us ate dinner and were having a good time around the campfire. I decided to cook two hot dogs and take them and some chips down to Dan because they had been gone a really long time. When I got down to the reservoir I realized the reason they were still gone. The two boys wouldn't come back into shore. Dan and I eventually got them to come in. We were both pretty frustrated. At that point I gave Dan the dinner I had made for him. I was surprised and humbled when he gave each of those boys a hot dog and his chips. He really cared about them. That night we had a testimony meeting around the campfire. Dan's testimony to the young men was amazing. I do not recall all the words that he said, but I remember feeling the Spirit burn within me as it has during some of the most spiritual events of my life.

When I found out the Howells were moving from our ward I was devastated. Dan had been such a big part of Scouting in our ward that I felt some panic. I remember tearfully hugging him good-bye at church. I'm sure that he was caught off guard, but that is the kind of influence he had on me. I hope that his interactions with me were as meaningful. The impact that he had on my life will be everlasting. I am grateful that Lord allowed me to have these experiences with Dan.

Andrew Bracken

Dear Howells Family,
My heart just brakes for you knowing the great loss that you have had to suffer this week. I can't think of your family without getting tears in my eyes...to know what a wonderful, faithful, loving, kind family that you are, just makes me so sad that you have to go through this great trial in your life. However, I know without a doubt that you will get through this and that Heavenly Father will lighten your load, comfort you, and give you strength when you need it. I also know that your father/husband will be looking down on you all from above. The one memory of Brother Howells that I will always cherish most of all is the look on his face that he would get when he saw his family walk into Sacrament meeting. I LOVED watching him every sunday sit up on the stand with the Bishopric and just light up with love and happiness to see his sweet family that he obviously loved so very much! My husband and I both noticed that great love he had for his family the very first week we moved in. I know it's the same look that our Heavenly Father must have when He is watching over us and as we follow His plan.

Brother Howells was such a loving man! I will always be grateful for his warm welcome when we first moved in and for the way he would always smile or take the time to talk to us or shake our hand. He was and is such an example to so many!

I truly believe that some people are so prepared to return to their Heavenly Father, that they no longer need this life to progress. My Mother also lost her father when he was only 37...leaving my Grandmother with 7 children to raise on her own. I know it wasn't always easy for my Grandmother, especially since she never had the desire to remarry, but I am so grateful to her for staying strong and for raising the righteous children that she did and for blessing our lives with her amazing example. From what I know of my Grandpa, he was very Christlike and was prepared to return to his Savior. I can't think of anyone more like our Savior than your father/husband. I feel grateful for the chance to have known him and to learn from him. I also feel grateful to have had the chance to teach Caleb in Nursery and Sunbeams. It was easy to see and know that Caleb came from such a strong and loving family. He has always been the ideal little boy in my eyes and before I became a mother of two little boys of my own, I always dreamed of having a sweet, little boy like Caleb. I know for my boys to be like Caleb, I must do my part as a parent to teach my children and to help them know of our Heavenly Father just like your parents have done so well. Please remember the love that your earthly father and your Heavenly Father have for you...and know that they will be watching over you each and every day with love in their eyes, until you see them again!

With much love, Grady and Angela Howell (Amber Rose Ward)

Dear Amy and children,

Our deepest thoughts and prayers are with you at this most difficult time of heartache and loss. We cannot express enough how much you touched our lives for the short time you were our neighbors.

Dan was such a powerful example of humble, sincere leadership. You could not meet a nicer man. It was evident through the many times he shared his testimony, of the love he has for his family and his strong faith in the gospel. He was always so willing to serve and dedicated his life to teaching what he knew was true.

We have missed your family on our street and always loved seeing you pile in your "big, white bus", as your kids called it to head off on a family outing, with all the kids waving to us from the back seat.

We had the privilege of teaching Spencer in his 8 year old primary class and we have never forgotten the comments and answers he would contribute during our classes. It was obvious he was born of goodly parents, who were teaching him so much at home. We commented that he was a mini Dan in the making and had strong grasp and love for the gospel for such a young age. Dan will be greatly missed.

We pray that Heavenly Father will provide strength and comfort to you in the coming days and that you will feel his peace and the love and support of those surrounding you. You are such wonderful examples to all who have had the privilege of knowing you. We count ourselves lucky to be among those, and want you to know how much we love you and are praying for each of you.

Love,

The Moody Family

I remember Dan being able always making people feel at ease and comfortable. He had a laid back way to make people feel at ease through humor and genuine kindness. He was not judgmental and always wanted to serve and help others. As Ward Clerk, I remember meeting Dan at his house not knowing him too well yet to go do something church related. One of the younger kids let me in, and then disappeared-- I thought to tell their dad I was there. About 15 minutes later Dan came down (in non-church attire) surprised and said, “How long have you been here? Do you want some pizza?” just as pizza had been delivered. I declined on the pizza, but knew this was my type of guy—cool, laid back and easy going.

I can remember watching Dan as he would sit on the stand. As his family would come into sacrament meeting, Dan’s eyes would light up at the at the sight of his kids coming down the aisle. He wasn’t good at hiding his emotion. A big smile would cover his face, and on occasion watery eyes, and you could see his focus turn from whatever was going on to them. There was never any mistaking Dan’s love for his family. I remember many times Dan bearing his testimony, getting emotional and telling of his great love and appreciation for his family, and dear wife Amy.

Dan is a man I greatly admire and look up to. On many times while following his term as 2nd Counselor in the bishopric, I would ask myself, “What would Dan do?” I will continue to ask that as he was truly a great family man of Christ-like character.

---Mike Pugmire

I had the chance to serve with Dan in the Amber Rose ward while he was in the bishopric and I was the Relief Society President. We attended the same Ward Council and Welfare meetings. We worked as part of the group to organize and meet the needs of a newly formed ward. Dan had a strong testimony of the gospel. That would come out as he shared ideas and talked about ways to reach out to less-active members of the ward. Dan loved his family so much, especially his wife. I remember him saying how he loved going to the temple, but it was not the best date night, you don't even get to sit by your spouse. Amy did a Relief Society mini-class on meal preparation and she said that Dan helped her with her system of organizing meals, and he helped her come up with ideas to make it work. He was a devoted and caring husband and father. He supported Amy as she took an Art class, that gave her a chance to develop a talent and have some time for herself. Dan Howells was a wonderful example of how we should be living our life. I know this will live on in his children and generations to come.

--Erin Pugmire

Amy-
I have so many fond memories of your family, we have missed you guys more than you know, everytime I look out the window I think of your boys up and out early in the morning going back and forth to Braxton's, Luke's, and the Mackay's houses. I will never forget though, that every morning when Dan left for work your kids would chase him down the street waving at him and telling him goodbye. The love your family shares with one another is remarkable, you and Dan have kept your kids close to you, loving you and respecting you. Your family has been a wonderful example to me and what I try to achieve in mine. Dan loved and totally adored you and he never kept that a secret, he was always so proud of you and proud to have you as his "trophy wife". We love you and your family, we ache for you and want you to know that you are in our thoughts and prayers and will be always.
Love-
JR, Karen, Raeli, Jaeron, Bekah and Lily Masina

Dear Howells Family,

We want you to know how much we love your family. We were so sad to hear of the tragic accident that took Dan away from you. But we took comfort in knowing of the plan of salvation and the eternal nature of the temple covenant that binds families together beyond this life.

Working with Dan in the bishopric was a great experience for me. Even though he had been a bishop before, he would defer to Bishop Peterson and showed him great respect. He frequently had insights and ideas for helping the people in the Amber Rose Ward. He loved the people in our ward and always wanted them to be better and improve their lives and come closer to Christ. His concern was for the welfare of their souls, a great example for us all to follow.

Kathryn was in our primary class during her last year in Primary. She was such a fun person to have in our class. She seemed to know the answers to all of the questions we asked and was very knowledgeable about the gospel. I think that is a great tribute to her parents and shows that she was taught well in her home.

We miss you being in our ward. Your family is so full of life, enthusiasm, and love. I hope that you will continue on in that way and continue to live your lives in the best way you can as a tribute to Dan.

With our love and prayers,

Gary and Shanna Olsen

A request....

I was not able to attend Dan's funeral. But I would love to see copy of the funeral handout. If anyone can scan it and post it, I would appreciate it. (Then you can delete this post). Thank you.

Kathryn's Tribute to Dan

A number of people have requested the transcript of the tribute that Kathryn (Dan's sister) gave at the funeral, so we decided this would be the best place to post this.

Tribute to Dan

Like all things in life, there is the bitter and the sweet, such is Dan’s passing. For all those who know and love him, our lives are sweeter, better, and uplifted by his influence. In the book The Road Less Traveled, M. Scott Peck defines love as: “The will to extend oneself for the purpose of nurturing another’s spiritual growth.” Dan loved WELL!

Danny took all of his purposes or roles very seriously. It was important to him to honorably fulfill his role as son, brother, husband, father and his callings to serve in the church.

As the oldest brother, Dan was very protective. As a young girl, I remember finding great comfort and safety in Dan’s presence. Each h of us sisters would often race for his bed after a bad dream. Dan was also protective about who we dated. He would relentlessly grill our dates (and then relay to us that none of our dates were good enough for his sisters…and more recently, his daughter).

As siblings, we have all lived out of state at one time or another. Dan didn’t let distance get in the way of being close. I could always depend on, and look forward to, a call from Dan on Sunday evenings.

Dan was such a tease! He reveled in getting a rise out of others.

Danny and I Shared a love of debate It didn’t matter much the subject. It was the thrill of creating a strong argument. One of us would make a statement and the other would jump in with the opposing view. Dan’s amazing, quick mind and thinking were inspiring. I will truly miss wrestling one another with words.

Dan lived in the present. He made the most of each day. His life was an example of the old adage, “work hard, play hard.” When working on a project, he worked HARD and was a motivating force to finish so there would be time left to play.

With his deep desire to fulfill his responsibility as the oldest brother and lead by example, he served somewhat as a compass for each of us siblings. Talking things over with Dan always helped me to see my direction more clearly. Dan’s concern for each of us partnered with his solid foundation rooted in truth, led him to give advice carefully and well.

I believe that reading Dan’s mission letters that bore witness of a deepening love for the Savior and the people he served, inspired all four of his younger siblings to serve missions. Dan’s standing before the Lord was his life’s focus. As his younger sister, it was always easy for me to believe in an older brother, our Savior, who knew me and loved me perfectly. Although Dan was imperfect, from his little sister’s view, his love was constant, his intentions pure, his heart loyal, and his desires for others were filled with charity. My testimony of the Savior and His restored gospel was seeded in Dan’s example and the many tender conversations we had.

I have no words to describe the relationship between my brothers, Dan and Paul. To be described as ‘one soul’ may be too close, ‘the best of friends’ is too far apart. They finished each other’s sentences, knew what the other was thinking without words, had the same warped sense of humor, and were strong where the other was weak.

I have loved watching Dan as a father. Tickling, teasing, wrestling, teaching, testifying, serving, comforting, working, hugging, laughing and loving! I believe there are four things Dan would want his children to know. First, to honor and cherish their mother. Second, to live in the safety and peace the gospel provides. Third, to find the joy in each and every day. And fourth,to know and trust in his undying love, and that their family will be together forever.

Last of all, as Dan’s sisters and brother, we are most grateful for the woman Dan married. Amy is a true helpmate. She is the great woman behind this great man. She is the gentle force that in many ways has made Dan who he has become. Their love for one another is abundant and eternal. Dan and Amy built their love, relationship, and family upon the rock, our Savior Jesus Christ. I am so grateful for the promise of eternal families.

[D&C 132:46] I testify to the truthfulness of this promise. Dan and Amy’s family was ‘bound’ on earth by priesthood authority and is and will be ‘bound’ in the eternities. This is not goodbye. This separation is increased motivation for each of us to live in a manner pleasing to our Heavenly Father that we might be reunited with Danny on the other side.

- Kathryn Howells Hart

A Hero Among Us

This is a letter I wrote and posted on my own blog when I heard the news:

Dear Brother Howells,

My heart was saddened to learn that you were taken from this earth so unexpectedly. It weighed even heavier knowing that I missed the chance to thank you in this life for the lasting impact you made on mine. I last saw you at my wedding reception 6 ½ years ago, and I should have thanked you then. I can only hope to have the chance one day to tell you, but for now I thank your family for sharing you with so many of us.

I was a sophomore at CDO during your first year of teaching seminary there (1996). I think all of us were a little unsure about getting a new teacher, but you won everyone over pretty quickly. Your enthusiasm for the Gospel was contagious, and your ability to make studying it fun was just what we all needed. It was through studying the Book of Mormon in seminary that year that I first really gained a testimony of the Gospel. Your own personal example of kindness has stayed with me through the years. You had an ability to show genuine interest in each of us as individuals, which for me personally made me feel important during a time when I was struggling and really needed a boost. You were like an extra father figure to me, and to many of us.

Your dedication to and love for your family is also something I will always remember. You couldn’t talk about your wife without completely lighting up, and you kept a framed poem she had written to you in your office. Surely your children have grown up a lot in the past ten years, but I remember your two darling little girls coming to visit you at Seminary, and how you and they both would light up every single time. I knew that I wanted to live my life in such a way that I could have a family like that someday.

All I have left to say is thank you. Thank you for giving of yourself, for living in an exemplary way, for loving those around you, for changing lives. I thank your family for sharing your light with us, and my heart goes out to them as I know they will be sorely missing you along with the rest of us.

Til we meet again,
Jeanine Kramer Benson

Aloha From Hawaii

Dear Amy,

You don't know me and I don't know your family either but I read about Dan on Sugar Doodle and just wanted to send our condolences to you and your family. He looks like a wonderful husband and father and from the stories already shared we know he has had an impact on many, many lives. We hope that you will keep up the blog on Dan, your children, and yourself.

As a hawaiian, it is part of our tradition to sing "aloha oe" to those who are departing or those who have departed. Aloha Oe means farewell. We wanted to share the words with you..........

Aloha oe, aloha oe (farewell to you)
E keonaona noho i ka lipo (Charming one that dwells above)
One fond embrace, a ho'i a'e au (One fond embrace, ere we part)
Until we meet again. (Until we meet again)

We pray you will find comfort and peace.

Aloha,
Our family in Hawaii

Memorial Video

Please feel free to watch the video here, or if you would like to download the video, click on the title (within the video frame) to go to the Vimeo page. Once there, scroll down the right sidebar until you see the gray header "Downloads." The file is formatted M4V (iTunes) is 640x360, and 327.46MB (bigger download).

Audio Files of Funeral Services

Here are the audio recordings of the funeral services. Please feel free to listen to them here or download them to your computer/iPod to listen to them.

Family Prayer
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Funeral Service
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Grave Dedication
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Portrait

Here is the photograph that we used for Dan's obituary and funeral program--with a few improvements to the background and with higher resolution. We are all so lucky that Kristen Howells Curtis snapped such a great photo of Dan before Christmas, then had the insight to send it to me in time to include in Dan's obituary.

My hope is that this version will be a meaningful photo that anyone can take with them. Clicking on the photo will open a bigger version of it in another browser tab. For PC users, right-click on that bigger photo and select "Save Image As..." (Sorry Mac users--someone else will need to help with instructions.)

Staring at this image of Danny (as I always knew him) while working on it has been an uplifting thing for me. I loved this guy--he is a lifelong hero for me. And you can see why when you look at his face that is so full of Light and Goodness.

- Cousin Dave Carlston

P.S., I am printing 5 x 7's of this photo for Amy/kids, Spence/Annie/their kids. If you would like an even higher resolution version of this photograph (i.e., more suitable for printing) please let me know.

It was humbling to see the outpouring of love, concern and support that came from our high school friends all across the country. Cami (Palmer) Trapp created this beautiful fitting tribute to Dan, in our behalf. Notice the hanging lantern with the 'candle' inside. Dan never failed to let his 'light so shine'. He was a tremendous example and friend to each of us. Our love, sympathy and prayers remain constant with you.

My heart is so full as I pause to reflect on Dan, Amy, their beautiful family, the Howell's and the Ereksons. I have so many special memories that span more than 30 years. 

I remember tagging along with Dan and Amy a lot in high school. I remember one night in particular we were at the Howell's home. It was a beautiful, clear night. Dan, Amy and I were just sitting outside talking into the late hours, feeling the gentle warm breeze, gazing at the stars. I remember being so struck by the overwhelming feeling of love between them. It was tangible, poignant and real. And so it has been ever since, and it has grown to include their beautiful children. This temporary 'separation' will not diminish that. 

I am so grateful for the love and friendship we have shared all these many years. I am grateful for the knowledge that this life is but a small moment in the spans of eternity, and that families are forever.

I will miss Dan, I will miss his infectious laugh, his silliness, his humility and compassion, and his big bear hugs. I, like so many others am a better person for having known him. He brought out the best in everyone and set such a remarkable example for us. 

My sweet Amy, please know that I am here for you, and that I love you... always. 

All my love, 

Kristy (McRae) Witt

LDS Primary Posters Blog for Dan

A friend from my mission in New Mexico shared this link with me for another tribute to Dan.
LDSPrimaryPosters.Blogspot.com there are some small world connections coming together here.

What a great man in Danny Howells!

-Buff Carlston (Howells cousin)

Together Forever

Dan was such a great husband, father, and friend. I remember when they lived in Herriman, he would always show his family how much he loved them. I know that it was his time to go and all of his family understands that. It's really good to know the Gospel and that family's can be together forever. And I know that all the kids and Amy will never forget him, nobody will. "Once a family, ALWAYS a family."
Dallas McCloy

Dan was an excellent example

Dan was the eldest grandson, and as such was a great example to all of us. Dan had the unique ability to create a personal relationship with each of his cousins. I felt genuine concern, interest, and love from Dan. Dan was a great hugger. I looked forward to seeing him at every family party and getting a hug from him. He had a contagious, deep laugh.

When I was very young, Dan came and lived in our basement while he attended to USU. I worshipped him. He was amazing. The older brother that we didn’t have. He would take us to school in the back of his Jeep, and all of a sudden, we were cool, seriously. And then, he started dating Amy, the most gorgeous girl that my 8 year old eyes had ever seen. I remember sneaking up the attic stairs and peering over the top to spy on this perfect couple, hoping to catch them kiss. And when their courting ended in marital bliss, I have always looked to them as an example of a strong marriage and wonderful family.

I always enjoyed family testimony meetings with Dan. He had such a strong testimony and was excellent at expressing it. One testimony meeting in particular that I have always remembered was on the cousin handcart trek. We were gathered around, where some of our ancestors had died, and Dan bore testimony of an experience he had a few years earlier with his Dad. They were on a trek similar to that one, with the CES, and one man remarked that he didn’t know why the Lord didn’t save those early pioneers. Dan with a smile, and tears in his eyes bore testimony to us, at that same spot, that the Lord did save them. He has saved all of us. Dan had a deep understanding of the atonement, and that testimony that I heard him bore at that moment, caused me to yearn to have a deeper understanding and appreciation of the atonement for myself.

Love,

Allyson (White) Frankman

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dan was a good man and he loved his family so much and other people too as far as in herriman utah and we will miss him. riley thompson

A follower first

Dan was a natural leader but made him great in my eyes was his ability to follow. He would often sit back enjoying the conversation and then share input beyond his years. I enjoyed sitting in bishopric meetings with him where you could witness his meekness and wise counsel firsthand. He was a careful listener and a wise counselor.

He had great pride in doing things himself from completing a basement to putting a home up for sale. Even with a busy schedule I remember him installing slate tile in his basement bathroom inclusive of a tub surround. I'll remember with fondness working with him on the last bit of this project and the cleanup --such a positive attitude. It was easy to see the pride in his eyes upon tackling a job like that. His leadership ability shown through when on moving day he organized a long line of volunteers from the basement to the garage as we shifted food storage from basement to trailer in assembly line style (our knees and backs thanked him for that). His trust in and gratitude towards me will be a forever memory. I'm among the fortunate that crossed his family's path. I was too choked up at the viewing to share my thoughts with Amy and Kathryn, but I sure love the Howells family. John (Shawnell) Larsen

Dearest Amy and Children,

Words cannot express my feelings and broken heart over the events of this past week.   I have been very close this wonderful family for over 30 years and count them as my dearest friends.  Ann and Spencer have supported me through difficult times in the past and it breaks my heart seeing the sorrow they and you are experiencing. Their children are almost like my own.

Danny was always such a darling young man.  His smile would literally light up a room!  I remember when he left for his mission and the two of you were dating.  When he returned home from his mission, I remember taking the Howells family to the airport in my big suburban to pick him up so everyone could go together in the same car.  I will never forget it.  

My children remember Danny teaching them how to ride horses at their cabin on Thousand Peaks Ranch.  He was always so patient and careful with them.  We had great times together there when our children were growing up.

    

Ann has always kept me up on the news on her family over the years.  She was so proud that Dan was called as a Bishop in Arizona and his experiences as a Seminary teacher.   She has always spoke so highly of you Amy, and what a wonderful wife and mother you have always been.  It is a joy for a parent to see their children happily married.  Your marriage brought much joy to both Ann and Spencer.

The funeral services yesterday were so uplifting and tender.  It was a beautiful tribute to Dan and to you. 

Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.  

Love,

Brenda

    

    

Tribute to an Amazing Man!

Anyone who had the chance to be around Dan Howells would be aware immediately of his genuine love for his family and the Lord. He lives the things he teaches. He adored his beautiful Amy and was proud beyond words of his "quiver" full of children. He was ready at a moments notice to serve with boots and work gloves on or by cinching up a tie and grabbing for his vial of consecrated oil. So many wonderful, funny, tender, inspiring, happy, touching stories are out there in so many lives that need to be gathered and told. Our prayer in setting up this Blog is to give a forum to share them in. We are planning to bind them into a book for Amy and their children to remember him by so share as many stories as you want to.
We love you Dan! We love you Amy, Kathryn, Mary, Hannah, Spencer, Shad and Caleb!

The "Kiss'n Cousins"

Over the past couple of days I have been flooded with childhood memories of my sweet cousin Dan. My entire childhood, especially memories of our summers at the cabin have become so clear and vivid to me. I am so grateful for these memories and will always cherish them more than I ever realized. Dan is a man of great strength, love and contagious happiness. I can hear his voice in my mind saying "I love you sooo much Ang", feel his strong, long hugs, and see his happy face so clearly. This great man will be missed dearly, but never forgotten... much love to his sweet wife that I love so much and his beautiful family. They will be in our daily prayers.
Love forever....Angie Howells Healy

Dan will be missed!

I came across this photo when we were gathering some stuff for the service and this pretty much sums up how Dan has impacted his family's life...someone always wanting to teach, guide and lead his family. I know he'll be missed greatly but has provided a sure footing for each.

-Bob